My Recent Relationship Mistake

You may assume that as a Love Coach, I always do the perfect thing when it comes to my relationship; that I’m the ideal wife and that everything in my relationship is always smooth sailing. In full disclosure, this simply isn’t true. I do relationships well, and I have a really great one, but I’ve recently realized that I’m making a relationship mistake that needs my attention.

I used to be the girl who gave everything to her relationships. I catered to my boyfriends, spent way too much thinking about my love life and wasn’t actually being appreciated, to boot. When that realization finally became crystal clear, I embarked on a journey of deep self-loving. I say journey, because there’s no end to this road. I learned how to put myself first, how to give to myself what I may desire from someone else and how to love myself above all. Which is all super great. Only thing is, I may have gone a little far on that end of the spectrum and forgotten to think about what Jack, my wonderful husband, needs, too.

Jack is a very self-sufficient guy. He doesn’t complain and doesn’t ask for much. He’s also more than happy to do things for me, our son and our home. He’s a great cook and super handy. So, it’s been easy to “get away” with thinking about my needs more than his. I believe this is compounded by the fact that aside from myself, my main focus has been on our baby, and my other baby - my business. With all the pieces of my life that I’ve been managing, I’ve kind of let go of doing things for Jack out of pleasure. And that’s too bad, because I love this man and he deserves the best.

Anyhow, the feeling of shame that came with this realization didn’t stick around for too long, because I decided to do something about it instead. I’m more mindful to take care of him in the simplest ways. I make his coffee in the morning more often than not, make more dinners with fresh ingredients (and actual excitement), pack his lunch from time to time, and all around think of his needs more regularly and more lovingly.

The point in sharing this with you, is two fold. One, I want to be certain you know that I make my fair share of relationship mistakes, too. And two, that on your journey to loving yourself and filling your cup, that you may allow the extra love to spill onto the ones you hold near and dear, because life is most enjoyed when we share our abundant love with others.

Peace & love,

Diana