It’s funny, this spell that has been cast on us females. The spell that oppresses our sexuality – what’s up with that anyway?
There are endless books, tales & movies that propagate the idea that a woman shouldn’t have sex with a man too soon, if she doesn’t want to lose him.
Women & Sex
I’ll start by saying, that I deeply believe every woman and man should be selective in who they choose to make their sexual partners. There’s so much that happens energetically when two (or more!) people come together this way. I also believe (through numerous observations), that a man and woman will ultimately have a deeper connection when they wait to learn more about one another, establish respect and appreciation – not to mention, the sex gets THAT much better!
The Proof is in the Pudding – Right?
That aside, this idea that a woman’s power in keeping her man, is directly tied to how fast she sleeps with him – is kind of, really frustrating. I’m guilty of having believed this for the longest time, and preaching it to my fellow sisters…and I apologize. I mean the evidence is in the pudding right? Time after time, I would see my fellow lady meet a guy she really likes, sleep with him way too soon, then BAM – he’s gone. So, as we’ve learned in any science experiment, the proof shows that A caused B, right?
Your True Power
A woman’s real power lies in her mind, heart, time and energy and in not giving these up too soon. Problem is, the trap is deep. We’ve also been programmed to feel that once we have sex with a man, our minds and hearts must follow – but I say, slow down sweet lady. Yes, the sex may be good and too much blood has momentarily left your brain to travel to the southern regions..but then you take a nap, wake up and remember you had a full life before this man, and you’re not about to give all (or too much) of your time, energy and affection to a man you hardly know!
You Had a Full Life Before Him: and You’ll Have One After Him
Proceed with caution when starting to give pieces of your heart and mind to another; know them not only through their words, but also their actions…which does indeed, take time. And as you know them, you share a little more, piece by piece. It’s not a game; it’s survival, self-worth – and it’s downright sexy! Enjoy the man’s company, be good to him and to yourself. Then turn around and remember you had a full life before he stepped into it, so focus on that! Read your books, exercise, visit friends, kick ass in your work and be completely irresistible – that’s YOUR power.
So get your groove on with caution, and protect your soul – your little lotus flower will thank you for it.
Peace, love and safe sexing,
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