When You’re In a Solid Relationship With Someone Who Has Integrity

When you’re in a solid relationship with someone who has integrity, you can allow yourself to adopt a point of view that helps you feel most connected with that person.

When you find yourself feeling triggered by your partner, it’s helpful to consider how else you can look at or approach the situation.

This is huge for me when my fight or flight response kicks in strong.

Finding a more loving perspective helps me find my calm a hell of a lot sooner.

Because I know my partner is a great man, I try seeing things from his perspective.

Is he really trying to hurt me? Trigger me? Bother me?

The answer is typically, no.

And with that, I can start to consider how else I might want to look at the situation – in a way that brings us closer together.

I am safe enough to do this, because I’m in a relationship with someone who wants to love me and do good by me.

I know this consciously, but the caveat is that I don’t always feel safe in my body. Hence, the fight or flight.

This is my growth work, to find the feeling of safety within me, because I know I am safe with him.

Even if he too is feeling triggered, I can still choose the perspective that allows more love.

Because at the end of the day, feeling love is the way I want to feel.

And most of the time, all I need to do to feel it is lean out of my own fear, and into love, with him.

So if you know yourself to be in a relationship with someone who is good, and albeit, humanly flawed, I invite you to try seeing things from the most loving perspective that you can – and see what that does for your connection.

With love,

Diana