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Lately, it seems I’ve been having the same (but different) conversation with many of the ladies in my life – should they put any effort into dating.
Let me start by saying that I don’t think everyone needs to be in a couple; everyone’s path is meant to be different, and there’s no one way to live. I don’t believe every person is waiting for that other special person to love them. And I believe that as a culture, we spend WAY too much time obsessing over relationships, which distract us from doing more with our time and energy – and do I dare even say, that I don’t think dating is the most important thing in the world? Gasp.
But I will also say that having companionship with someone who loves you for exactly who you are, supports you and pushes you to be your best is also a beautiful way to live. And if meeting a “special someone” to do that with is something you truly want, you’re going to have to stay open.
I wouldn’t say you should start trying to “find” someone; this only makes you vulnerable and ripe for making mistakes. But you should stay open to possibilities, even when you’re not so sure they are….and more than anything keep your vibe open to attracting a special someone into your life (which by the way, is much easier to do when you project happiness. So the real effort should actually be about the relationship you build with yourself). This means that you have to actually “see” people (especially your sex of interest), instead of passively passing by. When someone gives you a flirtatious (but not inappropriate) vibe, flirt back. Communicate with your eyes when you see something you like. Stay open to blind dates that your friends suggest for you. Go online and see what captures your interest. Try speed dating with your friend. Say yes to more coffee dates.
Don’t obsess and try everything at once; but do keep a level head and get your feet wet. And remember that just because you decide to try something, let’s say like online dating, doesn’t mean it’s a commitment forever. If it’s not for you, all you have to do is sign off!
Let me ask you this, if you wanted to do better at work or in your business, wouldn’t you at least have to show up and be present?
Have fun with life and expand your comfort zone – that’s all it really wants from you.
Peace, love and staying open,