I struggle with time. Not with being on time, oh no no, not even in the slightest. I am in fact, incredibly punctual. I struggle with the feeling of being ruled by time; sometimes, I even feel like a slave to it. ‘Gotta be there in 15 minutes’. ‘Can only stay one hour’. ‘I have two hours to get this done’.
So when Oprah and Deepak announced their “Making Every Moment Count” 21-day meditation, I knew I had to get on board. Starting with Monday, which marked day 1. I started my morning with Deepak telling me that our centering thought for the day is “the best time of my life is now”.
It got me thinking. Can I truly commit to seeing every moment, the only guaranteed moment I have, as the best moment in my life – even if I’m doing something as mundane as brushing my teeth? The jury is still out, but I have a sneaking suspicion it may be worth a second thought.
The morning progressed as usual and as my husband and I were headed out the door (which of course, I had calculated perfectly to get us where we need to go on time), he grabbed my hand and pulled me in for a hug. As I put my head against his chest and he told me he loved me, I thought to myself “this is the best moment of my life”…and I believed it.
I closed my eyes, took in the moment and let the feeling of calm, love and appreciation wash over me. Time stood still – and everyone still got where they needed to go, on time.
Maybe there really is something to this whole here and now thing.
As the day went on I thought more and more about time and our perception of it. I recalled hearing about chronos vs kairos; two ancient Greek words for time. Chronos, as you may have guessed it, is in reference to measurable, linear time. Second after second, minute after minute, hour after hour. While kairos, is more qualitative in nature and refers to the “right time”. It begs us to ask ourselves the question of “what’s the best way to use my time?”, and ultimately lends itself to a more magical way of living and a more circular view of time.
Which brings me back to the morning, and that sweet moment with my husband. If we rush through these moments of our day, then we are literally rushing through our lives and rushing through the experiences that we’ve dreamed of and worked towards.
Not to mention, the rush is f***ing exhausting.
What would life be like if we could truly accept that no matter what is happening in the present moment, that it is the best moment of our lives – because it is the only true moment we have?
My guess is that we’d be less tired, have more connected relationships, be more awake to the magic of life and ultimately, experience much more peace. We’d also probably get we’re so rushed to go a lot faster because we’d be more aware of the cues along the way.
So I say this to you, and mostly I say this to myself, “this is the best time of your life”.
Peace & love,