Would you like dating you?
If the answer’s yes, then go with your bad self.
We’re often so quick to point out what we don’t like about our partners and what they aren’t doing right; but we’re not quite as generous with our own self reflection – like, how am I doing as a partner?
Looking at yourself from the outside in can be scary to say the least. It may reveal a whole muddled puddle of ugly – and a whole lot of beauty too.
But being honest about who you are, and how you are in relationships will reveal where you need to raise your standards of how you treat yourself, your partner and your relationship.
And it’s the first step to solving any of the problems in your relationships. I wrote about this just a few weeks ago, in a similar article, Taking Accountability in Your Relationships – this is just a different way of saying the same thing: it’s time to pull up your boot straps and own yo sh*t.
Do you appreciate your partner with your thoughts, words and actions?
Are you pleasant to be around, positive and uplifting?
Are you more on the moody side?
Are you a complainer? Or a doer and achiever?
Are you fun, loving, generous, considerate and kind?
Are your expectations higher of your partner than they are of yourself?
Do you think of what would make your partner happy as often as you think about what would make you happy?
These aren’t easy questions to ask – or answer.
But the more honest you are in your answers, the more progress you’ll make in being a better partner and inspiring and accepting nothing but great love.
Because as we know by now, the only person you have any control over is your self.
Our problems with others can so often be fixed by solving our own. But we neglect this simple solution and fixate instead on the things we wish we could change about others – which is a total waste of our time and oh so precious energy.
When you find yourself in a rut complaining about your partner, stop and ask yourself – would I like dating me?
Peace, love and self reflection,