The other day I was having a conversation with a married girlfriend who was telling me about her life as she sees it right now. In a nutshell, she’s busy, tired and disconnected from her husband – which she’s obviously not happy about.
It’s no surprise this would happen, right? As we work ourselves to exhaustion and take little (to no) time to connect with ourselves, we fall out of connection. Period. Because the truth is, you gotta be plugged in to be turned on – physically, mentally and emotionally.
Think of a toaster (analogy courtesy of Abraham Hicks); it’s pretty obvious to the most of us that in order for it to “turn on”, it’s gotta be plugged in. Yet, somehow we often forget that the same applies for us as humans.
It’s hard to go zipping through your day, from one “to-do” to the next, with no rest, no pause and no time to take care of some of your own basic needs, and then expect to connect with your lover at the end of such a long exhausting day. Especially, when this goes on for days, and sometimes, weeks, months and years.
It’s like we’re on autopilot, and we’ve turned “off” so that we can get through without falling apart.
We need to remember and respect that we are so much more than our physical bodies, our goals, our achievements. There is a larger part of us that is non-physical that needs some tending to, too. Our deepest connections with other beings are based on this part of ourselves, our souls, higher powers, source – whatever you want to call it.
Alignment, or “plugging in” is about connecting with that non-physical part of you. That peaceful, loving aspect of you that is always patiently waiting for you to remember your true nature. You are not a human doing, you are a human being. And in order to live your life fully, to experience connection with yourself, and with another, you need to create space to simply be.
Otherwise, you’ll always feel too rushed to talk, play and lay with your loved one.
Plugging in for you can look a whole bunch of ways. For me, it looks like meditation, listening to the birds chirping, taking walks with my husband, indulging in scented baths, listening to relaxing music and sitting peacefully, unphased by time (not always an easy feat).
When we plug in, slow down, take time to breathe and take care of the most important person in our respective lives (our selves), we step into an energy that is ready to receive love – and share it too.
You need to disconnect to connect, and get plugged in to be turned on.
Peace, love and plugging in,