regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).
If you ask me, there’s nothing more relevant to the quality of our lives than how much we love ourselves. Our bodies, jobs, money situations, relationships – everything is affected by the level of our self-love…our feeling of deep worthiness.
The thing is, you can only know how much you love yourself based on your level of awareness. And to become more aware you have to pay more attention. So I’ve put together a list of questions you can ask yourself to do a little self-assessment.
So pour your favourite hot drink, grab your prettiest notebook, get comfy and start journaling. You don’t have to do this all in one sitting; it can be part of your daily self-love ritual. Remember, it’s a journey.
Do you like spending time alone?
Do you have rituals or activities that are just for you?
Do you encourage yourself the way you would your best friend?
Do you stick to the commitments you make to yourself?
What kind of self-talk are you mostly having?
How often do you like what you see in the mirror?
Are the relationships in your life positive?
What are you tolerating from others?
How comfortable do you feel sharing your opinion?
Do you always feel the need to say yes, even when you don’t want to?
How do you spend your spare time?
Do you seek approval from others?
Can you take a compliment?
Do you love yourself when you ‘fail’ as much as you do when you succeed?
Do you truly believe you deserve to be happy?
I want to be super duper clear that there’s no one who loves themselves perfectly all the time – or ever. So don’t get down about it if you notice there’s a sizeable gap between how much you love yourself and how much you want to.
Get real about it, be ok with where you are and acknowledge that there’s more room for love – so not a bad thing!
Create a vision of you as someone who oozes with self-love. This vision (or SOULfie) is where you’re going and these questions will help guide you there.
Peace and self-love,