How many times have you turned to someone for advice without turning to yourself first?
It’s natural to want the opinion of others when we’re not sure what to do, or how we should feel – something I definitely see my female counterparts do more often than not. But just because it’s “normal” doesn’t always mean it’s good for you.
While I support the idea of turning to someone, who you know not only has your best interest in mind, but who also has a grounded perspective, it’s something that we do far too often before even checking in with ourselves.
When we’re in a panic we call up all of our “trusted” confidants and divulge our worries to the first person who will listen – opening our vulnerable selves up to the countless opinions of others. And all too often it’s like the blind leading the blind.
Too many opinions is a recipe for disaster and sure to cause you doubt!
I think the first and most obvious thing to reflect on is the value and quality of the advice you’re getting – as in how valid is this person’s opinion and what’s their “success rate” with the subject you’re asking about.
Bad advice is definitely more dangerous than no advice.
So be mindful of who you’re turning to – a.k.a, if your best friend’s life is kind of a hot mess, he or she might not be the best person to turn to for words of wisdom.
And yes, having guidance or a mentor is a blessing we should all be so lucky to have, but don’t underestimate the power of your own intuition.
Hear your own voice
You gotta learn to spend time alone so you can start hearing your inner voice – the one that’s desperately trying to give you the answers your tirelessly searching for outside of yourself.
You need to spend time alone and time in silence to give your deepest thoughts, wisdom, intuition – whatever you want to call it, the opportunity to speak to you and the opportunity to be heard.
If you’re new to this, it may feel awkward and uncomfortable at first, and it may take a while for you to start “self-revealing”, but there’s nothing more worth your time than this.
Life gets SO much easier, when you can tune into your intuition. Your mind and your vision of the road ahead get clearer, and you can therefore be of the highest value to the people and the world around you.
Wisdom makes the ride a whole lot smoother, and it’s something we all have the ability to access. But it takes effort and patience.
How many times have you spent hours on the phone listening to your friend stress about his or her life situation?
I’m going to bet more than once.
So how about giving yourself that same kind of time, where you patiently listen to yourself – for as long as it takes.
And be cautious not to seek the opinion of too many others, because not only are they often just as confused as you, but one by one, they drown out your own voice, the one that’s steadily waiting to reveal your truths.
Peace, love and hear your own voice,