Looking for Love? Start Designing Your Life

What if I told you, that you could manifest the love of your life?

It’s true. Well, almost. He or she may not be a reincarnation of that movie star you’ve been lusting after, but they can fulfill the type of love you’ve been looking for.In my last article, To Date or Not to Date, I describe why it’s important to stay open if you’re looking for romantic love. I know there are many people who don’t feel comfortable with the idea of online dating; but a good way to look at it, is like a warm up. Much like you would do at the gym – you’re just stretching out those dating muscles, which you may have not used in a while.

One thing that’s important to keep in mind is balance. More specifically, I’m talking about the balance of looking outward to finding that special man or woman, with looking inwards. Remember, the effort that you should really be putting into attracting love to your life is more introspective. You won’t be able to recognize your next love, without knowing yourself first. And if you’re carrying baggage from your childhood or past relationships, work on breaking down those walls and letting go of the past.

The next and possibly most important thing to do, is to start designing your own life. I had been practicing manifesting my thoughts into reality a year before I met my Mister Right. And it was around that same time, that I really got into the driver’s seat of my life and started directing it exactly where I wanted to go.

The thing is, change creates a momentum. If you’re at a standstill in your life and you’re unhappy with your job, where you live or anything else, but you just don’t have the energy or will power to change things up – then don’t expect for the things you want, like a man or woman, to come knocking on your door.

You gotta put the gears of your life into motion for things to start moving, and more specifically, moving in your direction. If there’s even one thing that you’re not happy with in your current situation, see what happens when you start taking intentional steps towards changing it. Doors start to fling open and opportunities shine their big bright lights – though your eyes have to be open enough to see them.

Practice living a life of intention, where you make shit happen for yourself. I don’t mean stalking every man in town until you coerce him into being your boyfriend - I mean living your life every day in the way that you really want. Now, I realize that for some, this idea may seem far out and unachievable, but there are plenty of resources out there to show you how to begin on this journey (and if you’re interested in knowing what they are, shoot me a message and I’ll be happy to send some links your way). If you’re wishing for things to change in your life, then start changing the things that you can.

And start believing in magic - yes, you read right. The more you see the small coincidences in your life as magical, the more magic you'll attract. Just like anything else, what you focus on and what you feed, will grow. If you focus on problems, you'll have more of them. If you focus on solutions, you'll come up with more. If you focus on blessings, you'll start seeing how many really exist in your life. And if you focus on even the smallest magical moments every day, you'll continue to experience more of them.

Finally, get clear on what your idea of love really looks and feels like. Just like any goal you have in mind, the clearer you are on your vision, the easier the steps are to get there and the more clearly you’ll be able to recognize the signs of opportunity.

Peace, love and life designing,

Diana