Whether you’re single, dating someone new or in a full-blown relationship, Valentine’s Day can be tricky at best. If you’re not with someone, you feel left out and awkward; and if you are, the pressure is totally on. Something’s gotta give, right?
First thing’s first, lay off the expectations. Let yourself (and your man if you got one), off the hook. Expectations aren’t a bad thing when they’re coming from a place of alignment, but when they’re coming from a place of “testing” someone or something, they almost always blow up. If you’re single, you may be expecting the worst today – let that go. And if you’re in a relationship, you may be expecting the best – let that go too, and let that person show up as they truly are. Rather than the anticipated pass or fail, accept this as a day to simply express love for yourself and others.
On that note, if there’s something you’re wanting or hoping for, give it to yourself! Seriously. Take a bath with all your favourite oils, get your nails done, buy some new underwear or indulge in a nice bottle of bubbly, whatever makes you feel a little more in love with you. And if you’re with someone, they’ll definitely appreciate you paying that extra attention to yourself – you really just can’t go wrong with this one.
And finally, take initiative. If you’ve been wanting to go to a new restaurant or see that exhibition at the museum, take your love, your girlfriends, your mom – or even just yourself!
Don’t be afraid to make this day your own, or feel like you can’t participate. On this Valentine’s day commit to having fun and feeling more love. Do the things and see the people that give you all the warm and fuzzy feels.
Peace, love and the best valentine’s day yet,